Not My Father's Son

Not My Father s Son Alan Cumming grew up in the grip of a man who held his family hostage someone who meted out violence with a frightening ease who waged a silent war with himself that sometimes spilled over onto ever

  • Title: Not My Father's Son
  • Author: Alan Cumming
  • ISBN: 9781782115564
  • Page: 145
  • Format: Audiobook
  • Alan Cumming grew up in the grip of a man who held his family hostage, someone who meted out violence with a frightening ease, who waged a silent war with himself that sometimes spilled over onto everyone around him That man was Alan s father, Alex Cumming.Alex was the dark, enigmatic heart of Cumming family life But he was not the only mystery Alan s maternal grandfathAlan Cumming grew up in the grip of a man who held his family hostage, someone who meted out violence with a frightening ease, who waged a silent war with himself that sometimes spilled over onto everyone around him That man was Alan s father, Alex Cumming.Alex was the dark, enigmatic heart of Cumming family life But he was not the only mystery Alan s maternal grandfather, Tommy Darling, had disappeared to the Far East after the Second World War The last time Alan s mother saw her father she was eight years old When she was thirteen, the family was informed that he had died in an accidental shooting.Curious to explore this second mystery, Alan committed to filming an episode of the BBC s Who Do You Think You Are Then out of the blue, his father, who Alan and his brother had not seen or spoken to for than a decade, called He had a secret he had to share, one that would shock his son to his very core and set in motion a journey that would change Alan s life forever.At times suspenseful, at times deeply moving, but always brave and honest, Not My Father s Sonis a powerful story about embracing the best aspects of the past and triumphantly pushing the darkness aside.

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    1. Wilkommen, bienvenue, welcome! Settle in for a story that is appalling and entertaining, hopeful and disappointing, reflective and sometimes ephemeral. Life is disappointing? Forget it. It is a good thing that this advice was not followed. Remembering seems more the thing.We have no troubles here. Here life is beautiful. Ummm, not so much. And now, Meine Damen und Herren, Mes Dames et Messieurs, Ladies and Gentlemen,Ich bin eur confrencier, je suis votre compere…I am your host. the star of our [...]

    2. This memoir blew me away. I had no idea Alan Cumming had such a miserable childhood. After finishing this I wanted to give the guy a hug.I knew little about the book when I downloaded it* — I chose it because I like Alan Cumming as an actor, and he has that charming Scottish accent, so I thought it would be a good audiobook.Alan was a wonderful narrator, but this memoir was quite dark. It tells how Alan's father terrorized and abused him, and of Alan's search to learn more about his grandfathe [...]

    3. AudiobookAlan Cumming, Scottish and American actor, singer/performer, author, and activistrvived the most horrific childhood from brutal emotional and physical abuse. His father who would inflict harm on him with no warning. This is a very powerful audiobook - hard to pull away from. It's a suspenseful memoir. Alan doesn't hold back. He said that his difficult childhood taught him how to act by needing to suppress his own emotions and feelings around his father when he was a little boy. He does [...]

    4. Dear Mr. Cumming, I feel you deserve a big hug. Since the chances of me ever giving you one are beyond nonexistent, I say this: Grant, give him a hug for me, please.Sincerely,Wart.Full review to come. Maybe.

    5. The puckishly charismatic actor Alan Cumming (The Good Wife, Spy Kids, Cabaret) delves into his horrific childhood and uncovers secrets from his family's history in this brave, beautifully written and honest memoir. The book is anything but a typical celebrity tell-all.Through a BBC genealogy reality TV show called Who Do You Think You Are?, Cumming learns about his maternal grandfather – who died under mysterious circumstances in his 30s – at the same time that his physically and emotionall [...]

    6. The scars of an abusive childhood form the backdrop for Alan Cumming's Not My Father's Son. I really enjoy memoirs, but I sometimes have to question why I enjoy them. Scenes from Cumming's childhood were brutal; in addition to outright violence, his father knew just what to do to make sure Cumming and his brother never received approval or validation for anything they did. This is not a childhood we would wish on anyone. Does Cumming rise above this childhood? Does he redeem himself from the hor [...]

    7. “Sometimes people do you a favour when they drop out of your life.” Truth.I’m struggling with my words here, so I’m just going to simplify them. Alex Cumming (Alan’s dad) was a raging, abusive asshole. Astonishingly, Alan Cumming is not. He really ought to be, growing up in Hell, instead he seems to have come through to the other side as a pretty fantastic fella. I’d love to tell him that in person and give him a hug.Growing up in a situation with a man who could (and would) blow his [...]

    8. Review of the audio read by Alan Cumming. Just a few thoughts I have to get down. Audios read by the author are always among my favorites. There is an honesty there that I connect with, and that was even more true with Alan Cumming's reading of Not My Father's Son. This was a deeply personal account of Alan's childhood, his harsh and violent father, his loving mother (I loved her name "Mary Darling"), and his forgotten and misunderstood grandfather. This is a solid, heartfelt memoir. Well-done.

    9. Happiness erasedClouded by fear, humiliation, painDarkens my mindIrrationality, rage, violenceAnxious, never relaxShutting down, never speakJoy suppressed, hurts lessTension, humiliationBecome nothingGive nothing awayDarkness, silence, fearNever safeNavigating a minefieldUnhealthyFailings, feeling guiltyWorthless, loath myself"I'm sorry"Silent house, facadesVolatility Denial, never relyUnresolved pain, hurtMy own mind, my own opinionGates open, trickle, floodFill my head, explodeSadness, deep de [...]

    10. Alan Cumming is a Scottish actor who's probably best known in America for hosting "Masterpiece Theater" on PBS and playing Eli Gold on "The Good Wife". He's also a very successful stage and movie actor, now happily married to his husband Grant. Alan's life wasn't always so bright though. In this memoir Alan talks about growing up with a father, Alex Cumming, who was physically, psychologically, and emotionally abusive. The book starts off with a bang as Alan describes a childhood scene where his [...]

    11. After reading Will Byrne's review of this book and then watching Cumming's episode of Who Do You Think You Are on YouTube, I just had to settle in with the book for myself. I've enjoyed Alan Cumming in various performances for quite some time and it is now very interesting to learn more of the whole person and his earlier life.The world really opened up for him as he grew up and, especially during the year when he was filming the genealogy show, he learned more than he ever would have expected a [...]

    12. “Finally, the scariest thing about abuse of any shape or form, is, in my opinion, not the abuse itself, but that if it continues it can begin to feel commonplace and eventually acceptable.”Wow. I think everyone is surprised by how hard and painful was Alan's childhood. He grew up in a lair where fear was part of the routine, where one had to learn to read expressions like a book, so it was possible to be ready - was it possible to ever be ready, though? - to what was coming. Aggression and h [...]

    13. Blargh. This is another review that I just don't know how to start. I've typed and deleted about 6 different versions already, so I've given up and now THIS is how I'm starting it. That's the way it goes sometimes. It's after midnight and I'm determined to finish this review so I don't have it hanging over my head any longer. So. Alan Cumming. It might be surprising to some of you, but I've seen very little that he's been in, yet for some reason, I have nothing but positive associations in my mi [...]

    14. Re-read via audio book (finally got my hands on it):)Side note: First timeI saw/heard of Alan Cumming was as Nightcrawler in X2 I've seen him in things on and off over time but never followed him like I did withc certain bands/authors but he's been on my radar.----Just as compelling and heaetwrenching, and at times heartwarming as the first time around even more so with Alan narrating itself. His voice is so beautiful and soothing/calming.Not to overuse the word but still amazed he put this whol [...]

    15. I love Alan Cumming, so I was really looking forward to this. However, I'm generally suspicious of celebrity biographies, so I approached it with cautious optimism. By the end of the book, I just loved him more. Not so much a biography but a memoir focusing on Cumming's reaction to being told that his father was not, in fact, his father. An appearance on the UK's Who Do You Think You Are was meant to reveal the mystery behind what happened to Cumming's grandfather on his mother's side. Instead, [...]

    16. I really enjoyed this memoir which I listened to via Overdrive. Alan Cumming does not tell the story of his stardom but rather of his hard upbringing with a physically and mentally abusive father, bullying at school and the search for answers regarding his missing maternal grandfather. Luckily he has a wonderful and supportive family including his mother (Mary Darling - you have to love the name), brother, grandmother and husband, etc. I loved listening to his Scottish accent! He seems to be a v [...]

    17. Picked this up on a whim when I was skimming the new books at the library, and read it in an evening. Half the memoir is the same story told on Alan's episode of Who Do You Think You Are?, about his maternal grandfather, a man who was a bit of a family mystery, never returning to England after World War II despite having a wife and children.The other half is about his abusive childhood with a violent father, and how that has effected him today. He also talks about how he has worked on it - thera [...]

    18. This was pretty disappointing. Cumming clearly had a lousy childhood and I found him at his most articulate and interesting talking about the abuse he suffered at the hands of his father, but the rest of it just made me dislike him. It seems bizarre to criticize a memoir for being too self-involved, but that's definitely what this felt like. There was a focus on minute details here that felt self-absorbed, like we were supposed to care about what happened at what time, and which episode preceded [...]

    19. I listened to the audiobook NOT MY FATHER'S SON: A Family Memoir written and read by Alan Cumming. Alan Cumming's father Alex was a man who held his family hostage, who meted out violence with a frightening ease. Alex was the dark, enigmatic heart of Cumming family life. But he was not the only mystery. Alan's maternal grandfather, Tommy Darling, had disappeared to the Far East after the Second World War. Curious to explore this mystery, Alan committed to filming an episode of the BBC's 'WHO DO [...]

    20. When you Google Alan Cumming the search leads to such descriptors as:“Scottish actor” “singer/ performer” and headlines “I act, I snap, I conquer” and “I’ll drink to that – Alan Cumming Sings Sappy Songs” What you don’t expect to find when you crack open Not My Father’s Son is such sheer and utter honesty. Imagine the courage it took to not only face emotional and physical abuse at the hands of his father but to expose himself to the masses in this way. To say the least, [...]

    21. I went into this book without preconceived expectations. I have never seen the actor / author on TV or stage. My sole contact with him is having heard his narration of A.J. Hartley's Macbeth. Both the narration and the retelling of Shakespeare’s story were very good In Not My Father's Son the author reads his own book and tells about events in his own life. I knew only that he was gay and that he had been physically abused by his father.We are given a view into a dysfunctional family. However [...]

    22. Not only not his father's son, and not only a really interesting and appealing actor, but Alan Cumming is an openly bisexual celebrity. Not too many openly bisexual men in the world of fame it seems, unless I've missed something. But I have to be honest: I picked up this audiobook because the price was appealing and I like the guy's acting. Coming across it like I did was a happy accident because I really enjoyed it. What a treat that Mr. Cumming read the book himself, and that he's darn good at [...]

    23. לא צפיתי בסרטים וסדרות שבהן שיחק אלן קאמינג, אבל אני מבינה שהוא שחקן מוכשר ופורח. הספר הביוגרפי שפירסם, מוכיח שהוא גם כותב מוכשר ויודע לספר סיפור טוב, גם אם מדובר בסיפור חיו וחיי משפחתו הקרובה.הספר מתרכז בשני קווי עלילה: הקו העיקרי מבחינתי הוא סיפור מערכת יחסיו עם אביו, שמעולם [...]

    24. That which does not kill you makes you stronger.but you will always carry those ghosts with you, no matter how soon or how late you make peace with your past, and acknowledge you are not to be blamed for what happened.Although i am not one to normally read books written by actors and actresses, this one caught my eye at the library and, given how much i like Allan Cummings work (d accent),i knew i would give it a try.My goodness, nothing could have prepared for the emotional roller coaster that [...]

    25. I loved this. What a well-written and very unique memoir. Alan Cumming's story of estrangement from his father is multi-layered and so rife with his own, individual voice that I was completely engrossed in his story. He approached a lifetime of paternal-induced anguish with courage and honesty. I felt for the little boy who was so confused by his abusive and violent father and I felt even more for the man who had achieved all of the trappings of success but suffered from the effects of a horrifi [...]

    26. So much of this book was based on Cumming's experiences in taking part in the British television genealogy programme "Who Do You Think You Are", that I just ended up getting frustrated. I saw the programme. I knew all the surprises and his reactions to them already. I did not need it dissected piecemeal throughout the book.It was saddening to read about his traumatic childhood - of course it was. And I am delighted that this lovely actor has managed to rise above such a tough start in life. But [...]

    27. A powerful story not only about the author, but about his family, and their painful history. The author is a survivor, and has suffered, but this book didn't feel like a celebration of misery or a means of revenge. Honest, and relatable and very readable memoir.

    28. This is one of the saddest Memoirs I've ever listen to.For Alan Cumming to be so open and truthful about the happenings in his life is awe-shockingly beautiful."Finally, the scariest thing about abuse of any shape or form, is, in my opinion, not the abuse itself, but that if it continues it can begin to feel commonplace and eventually acceptable"

    29. This story is absurdly beautiful. It's captivating, heart-rending, and hopeful. I devoured the book whole like I would some fantasy novel I've been waiting months to get my hands on. Alan is a storyteller I would listen to by a fire, sipping coffee, snuggled up with a loved one.I so admire Alan Cumming. For having the bravery to confront his father and the honesty to tell his story. For relating sometimes brutal truths with tenderness and grace. For forgiving and letting others witness it. For e [...]

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